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an interesting story...tats all i'll say...is sad in a way...
yayayayayayayayayayaya
ok im gonna blog abt sth VERY serious...
family had a very big fight just afew dayz back...again...mostly between my bro n dad...wat did i do?...i just studied/analysed/obsevered...like automatic ready sia...but here is some very serious...least to me...shit i found out...
see MOM n DAD married over 32 years...there were court cases and extreme tensions always existing between em...in short...BOTH dont knoe how to resolve diff. and manage emotion...so...
MOM N DAD dont knoe =
BIG sis dont knoe=
BIG bro dont knoe=
MEEEE dont knoe=
sis dont knoe=
niece dont knoeee...
wat exactly i dont know?
1. emotions and its management and appropriate application
2. love between 2 ppl...as i never see mom or dad F.A.S.T love 4 each other...
3. mom?
4. dad?
solution?
for 1. i lucky to be the black sheep of the family...actually a black sheep doesnt exsist...we are ALL very diff. from each other...but...cuz i attend aikido,ncc n zikir classes (prayer an meditation classes) growing up i bit better off...in psychology i learnt tis theory of mayer and salovey on Emotional intelligence (EI)...tat now allows me to understand myself better...im gonna work on tis so i dont continue tis F@#ked up vicious cycle and be the 1 to BREAK it...i realise i have the necessary tools already from wat i have ALREADY LEARNT...now to just apply and metamorphosize...
for 2...i learnt in psycholgy tat every1 has a diff. definition of love among other stuff which i lazy to write...so simple...i just apply psychology again to my broken life...
for 3 n 4....dad replaced by bro...mom?...hehe my aunty...so really had no issue here as i still received the love in some way...no wonder was not really a big deal...note to self : be careful when u get a girlfriend...
im not blaming or am angry with my parents cuz in the first place...they dont know how to be a couple let alone parents...but the very interesting thing is tat...watever happens...they still r 2gether...4 32 years...just not in toking terms...still...2gether...i learnt that MOST asian parents didnt learn to be parents...never attended parenting courses or learnt to parent...imagine u have siblings to takecare of...tats the closest u'll come close to being a parent...STILL...there is a diff. between being a parent taking care of kids in all aspects and being an older chlid taking care of the siblings...so moral of the story....when u get married...do your research, attend courses/workshops and update n upgrade yourself with the proper knowledge...your kids should not have to go thru the shit u do coming back home everyday aft sch...
hiaz...soo many probs...so little time left...wonder if i ever be ok...i will....tats me!
lastly...GAMBATTE RAFI...GAMBATTE NINA!!!
an interesting story...tats all i'll say...is sad in a way...
yayayayayayayayayayaya
ok im gonna blog abt sth VERY serious...
family had a very big fight just afew dayz back...again...mostly between my bro n dad...wat did i do?...i just studied/analysed/obsevered...like automatic ready sia...but here is some very serious...least to me...shit i found out...
see MOM n DAD married over 32 years...there were court cases and extreme tensions always existing between em...in short...BOTH dont knoe how to resolve diff. and manage emotion...so...
MOM N DAD dont knoe =
BIG sis dont knoe=
BIG bro dont knoe=
MEEEE dont knoe=
sis dont knoe=
niece dont knoeee...
wat exactly i dont know?
1. emotions and its management and appropriate application
2. love between 2 ppl...as i never see mom or dad F.A.S.T love 4 each other...
3. mom?
4. dad?
solution?
for 1. i lucky to be the black sheep of the family...actually a black sheep doesnt exsist...we are ALL very diff. from each other...but...cuz i attend aikido,ncc n zikir classes (prayer an meditation classes) growing up i bit better off...in psychology i learnt tis theory of mayer and salovey on Emotional intelligence (EI)...tat now allows me to understand myself better...im gonna work on tis so i dont continue tis F@#ked up vicious cycle and be the 1 to BREAK it...i realise i have the necessary tools already from wat i have ALREADY LEARNT...now to just apply and metamorphosize...
for 2...i learnt in psycholgy tat every1 has a diff. definition of love among other stuff which i lazy to write...so simple...i just apply psychology again to my broken life...
for 3 n 4....dad replaced by bro...mom?...hehe my aunty...so really had no issue here as i still received the love in some way...no wonder was not really a big deal...note to self : be careful when u get a girlfriend...
im not blaming or am angry with my parents cuz in the first place...they dont know how to be a couple let alone parents...but the very interesting thing is tat...watever happens...they still r 2gether...4 32 years...just not in toking terms...still...2gether...i learnt that MOST asian parents didnt learn to be parents...never attended parenting courses or learnt to parent...imagine u have siblings to takecare of...tats the closest u'll come close to being a parent...STILL...there is a diff. between being a parent taking care of kids in all aspects and being an older chlid taking care of the siblings...so moral of the story....when u get married...do your research, attend courses/workshops and update n upgrade yourself with the proper knowledge...your kids should not have to go thru the shit u do coming back home everyday aft sch...
hiaz...soo many probs...so little time left...wonder if i ever be ok...i will....tats me!
lastly...GAMBATTE RAFI...GAMBATTE NINA!!!
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